Let’s Talk Erogenous Zones
When it comes to sex it’s what I like to call “the intangibles” that can take an average sexual encounter and turn it into an amazing one. For me, the intangibles generally include doing naughty things to non-obvious body parts. You know, the fingers, toes, knees, and elbows…all those places people can forget to play with in an effort to hit all the “hot spots.”
While fingers and toes are a pretty obvious go to non-sexual body parts, when is the last time someone caressed the back of your knees or kissed your elbows? How about tickled your knee caps and teased your spine? Or licked your collar bone or nibbled on your hips?
When you look at the Female Erogenous Zones there are some surprises: Neck, Navel, Ribs, Breasts, Inner Thighs, Back of the Knees, Toes & Clitoris.
While I don’t think the neck, inner thighs or breasts are a surprise, who would have thought caressing the ribs or the navel would be a hot spot?
For Male Erogenous Zones there are fewer surprises, but some interesting locations nonetheless: Ears, Lips, Neck, Scalp, Chest, Inner Thighs, Glans Head, Perineum, Anus, & Scrotum.
I have a friend who melts if you rub his scalp. It’s an instant turn on for him. While many straight men eschew any anal play, it’s really silly for them to do so. The prostate is located ’round those parts so it is a very sensitive (and pleasurable) place for men.
Unfortunately too many straight men associate any sort of anal play with homosexuality. Like I say to folk: there is a difference between a sex act and sexual orientation. If it’s a woman doing the playing, then your sexuality is not in question.
Why miss out on a boatload of pleasure because of ignorance?
With that said, I think when people comment that the sex has gotten boring it’s because they’ve forgotten that a. we’re three dimensional and b. there are so many delicious pleasure centers on our oddly shaped and often amusing to look at bodies. If we took a little more time to hit these often overlooked spots I think we’d be hard-pressed to find too many “boring” moments in bed.
So Sex With T.S. readers…what are the non-sexual body parts that get you hot? And which are the ones you wish received more attention in the sack?
Tags: Erogenous Zones Sexuality
I never would have guessed, but the backs of my knees and the hip/thigh crease are two of my very favorites. Both discovered by the same lover, how could anyone else be my favorite? 🙂
Both of the spots you mention are erogenous zones for women. Ones that, unfortunately don’t often get the attention they deserve.
When you look at the Female Erogenous Zones there are some surprises: Neck, Navel, Ribs, Breasts, Inner Thighs, Back of the Knees, Toes Clitoris. While I don t think the neck, inner thighs or breasts are a surprise, who would have thought caressing the ribs or the navel would be a hot spot?
Though some people might get all Marie Antoinette about having their neck touched, neck kisses are almost always a turn-on, says McCombs. In fact, women ranked the nape of the neck above the breasts and nipples as an erogenous zone, according to a study published in the journal Cortex. “It’s such a sexy place because it’s such a vulnerable place,” says McCombs. “If you combine the lips with the neck, it’s quite a turn-on.” She suggests starting with the sides of the neck, kissing or brushing it gently with your fingers. “You’d think something that’s so often used has lost all feeling,” says NYC-based sex researcher Zhana Vrangalova, Ph.D. “But the bottom is pretty high up there when it comes to erogenous potential.” (Not all that surprising, really, considering its proximity to the genitals.) How to make the most of this erotic area? Ask your partner how he or she would like to be touched there. Hard? Soft? Let them choose.