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\"Make<\/p>\n

Can You Make Someone Cheat?<\/h1>\n

This is going to piss a lot of people off but, contrary to popular belief, you can make<\/em> someone cheat.<\/p>\n

Yes. You read that right.<\/p>\n

From a woman\u2019s perspective there are three things that I think women do that can lead their man to stray:<\/p>\n

1. The Bait and Switch
\n2. Punishing\/Witholding Sex
\n3. Gaining ( a significant amount of) weight<\/p>\n

1. The Bait and Switch<\/strong><\/h3>\n

There is a rule that newlywed couples should live by – don\u2019t do anything in the first six months that you don\u2019t plan on doing for the rest of the marriage. This is true not only for newly married couples but for dating couples as well. We want so hard to impress our men and be the perfect girlfriend or wife that we can outright lie about who we are and what role we\u2019re willing to play in a relationship.<\/p>\n

These lies can take place in many forms. If you\u2019re not super chef in the kitchen, don\u2019t front like you are, pulling the old Fake and Bake, making a man believe you\u2019re B. Smith when you know can\u2019t boil water. If you were super fly chick when you met, don\u2019t expect that it\u2019s all of a sudden okay to turn into \u201csweats and t-shirts,\u201d chic, if he likes high maintenance women, he will find him one when your true colors start to show.<\/p>\n

And if you were a super freak in the bedroom don\u2019t think now that you have him\u2026it\u2019s okay to turn into a nun or to dial down the freakiness. All of these things (as well as a host of others) equate to a breach of contract. You\u2019re not the person you sold yourself to be and the new person may not be what your significant other wants. This scenario could clearly lead to someone looking for what they want elsewhere\u2026even if at this point they are very much in love with you.<\/p>\n

2. Punishing With\/Withholding Sex<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Bargaining with sex is ALWAYS a bad idea. Sorry. There is NEVER a good reason to use sex for any more than what it is meant for: a physical expression of the love\/feelings you have for the person you\u2019re with. I don\u2019t know what you think you\u2019re accomplishing by not sleeping with him. I can tell you what you are accomplishing however \u2014 sending him into the arms of someone else.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t know about anyone else, but my attitude is \u2014 if he\u2019s not sleeping with me then he\u2019s sleeping with someone else, so that\u2019s not a game I play and not one I want to be played on me. Regularly sexing your man is no guarantee that your man won\u2019t dip out, but not<\/em> giving him any is a pretty good way to send him looking for some elsewhere. And let\u2019s be clear whether or not he loves you will have little do with whether he dips out or not if he\u2019s being deprived at home.<\/p>\n

3. Gaining (a significant amount of) Weight
\n<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Okay, if I haven\u2019t pissed you off by now, I definitely will with this one. If you married your husband and you were 135 pounds, putting on 80 pounds (barring a medical condition) is a surefire ware to send your man out the door seeking sexual satisfaction somewhere else.<\/p>\n

So often I\u2019ve heard people say, \u201cBut I\u2019m the same person,\u201d when it comes to their weight gain and their inability to understand why their SO\/husband may no longer be attracted to them. I\u201dm sorry but that doesn\u2019t fly with me. You ARE NOT the same person. The person he wed was fit and healthy and active and could probably do things with her legs that would make a pretzel jealous. The person you are with the extra weight is probably none of those things and that canput a heavy strain on the marriage\/relationship.<\/p>\n

Gaining a significant amount of weight can be a deal breaker. It doesn\u2019t mean he doesn\u2019t love you anymore (but it might), it does mean however he may not find you sexually attractive anymore. And no, love and sex are not synonymous. By not taking care of yourself, you are putting your relationship or marriage in jeopardy. We like to pretend like sex isn\u2019t a big part of a relationship but the 1 and 2 reasons for divorce are money and sex. So chew on that as you munch on the butter pecan ice cream.<\/p>\n

But the weight gain isn\u2019t just about the sex. It\u2019s about a lifestyle you may have had with your boyfriend or about a set of beliefs you all held on life and health or simply it could be just about being physically attracted to the person you\u2019re with. We need to stop pretending like these things don\u2019t matter. They do. Love does not conquer all. And just because someone is committed to you, doesn\u2019t mean they won\u2019t find what they are lacking at home in another\u2019s arms.<\/p>\n

When there are major (and preventable) changes in a person\u2019s relationship, the doors to infidelity are opened and it is oh so easy to walk through.<\/p>\n

Save<\/span><\/p>\n

Save<\/span><\/p>\n

Save<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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